One of the unexpected positives I’ve discovered in the midst of this horrific pandemic is how words can heal.
At a time when physical proximity can be dangerous, many of us are telling one another how much we care.
As I’ve read accounts of Covid-19 survivors, there are thoughts they share in common.
“Have I been a good person?” and “I never told others how much they meant to me.”
We have temporarily lost the ability to hug those we love and shake hands with colleagues. Don’t miss the opportunity to put your affection and gratitude into words.
Kind words are therapeutic to both the sender and the recipient.
Consider making a list of the people who have been important in your life. Write that letter or email. Make that phone call. And tell them.
Too often, we reserve praise for funerals. I wish my sister and my parents could have heard the words their many friends told me at their memorial services. We go through life wondering if we have added value to the world. The truth is that each one of us has. Our reach extends well beyond our inner circles, often in positive ways we never knew about.
Why not craft some therapeutic gratitude for someone who has been important to you?
The praise formula is simple: Be specific. Be sincere.
“I’ve been thinking about that time when I was in a pretty bad spot. You were there with reassurance and support when it felt like hardly anyone else was. I’ll never forget that kindness.”
That can be an opener to meaningful conversations that can be life changers.
One person can help you sing the song in your heart when you have forgotten the words.
One person can inspire another to keep trying at the very instant they feel like giving up.
One person who radiates kindness and gratitude will find it reflected back.
At least one person has filled one of these roles for us at some point along the way. Now is a good time to thank them.
In this time of reflection, affirmation can heal the soul.
We are hearing over and over again that we can make a difference by staying home. Your words can make a difference, too.
So speak up.