Giving hearts can be trapped in un-productive relationships. The flip side of compassion can sometimes be a tendency to hang on to someone when you should be letting them go.
I originally wrote about this in the fall of 2011. It grew out of quote I shared on my Facebook feed.
“If Someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it. So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay.”
Dozens of friends came out of the woodwork to say, “I fall into this trap all the time!”
Who is really important to you? Who returns and amplifies that positive energy you seek to radiate into the world? Have you told them? When did you last spend any quality time with them?
Gently disengage from the people in your life who don’t want to engage with you. The time you’ll recover can be an amazing gift to give to someone who “makes an effort to stay”.
Denis Waitley has a saying that he uses to describe a good friend. “I like me best, when I’m with you.” Seek out these people. When you find them, your combined positive energy can jump off of the scale.
Prioritize people who care, when it counts they will be the only ones there.